THE COST OF COMPROMISE

 

Compromise is a small word with a great deal of depth in it. All our lives we have reached this stage we are already in by making a number of compromises with different situations and with different set of people. Compromise does not always mutually trade off two parties satisfactorily, it happens in order to avoid certain future disruptions and complications. Life has never given anything to anybody so easily what they wished for free of compromises and even if anybody have strived for getting what they want it has never left them at peace. The kind of emotion involved in this is terrible that it breaks you completely to not have what you desired for. 

This is errant for all irrespective of the gender, but here I would like to address with only woman. A woman, especially is exacted and expected to unavoidably compromise in her life from things she really love so much. No matter what role she plays, she has to compromise something for somebody, as this society stipulates and the most brutal thing is that she cannot question back those who restrict or authorise her which is why she possess a lack of clarity for not getting what she really wants. This eventually undermines her own self and is shunned from attaining the deeds that she would have received if she was freed to do whatever she wants.

If you take South Indian parents, they are extremely troublesome in handling issues like this, they expect their daughters to not share their whims and fancies. Only a handful of them let their daughters to pursue their heart’s desire and content. Rest of them are stringently concerned to shift their “responsibility” or the “burden” over them to some other male authority to supervise her till the end. It is only here that their daughters can be strong but never independent, she can be competitive and tough but she has to be tolerant and compromise in order to gain a chastity in this society.  Therefore, who is to be blamed? The parent’s mind-sets or their dreamy daughters or the manipulative and judgement secreting society?

1. UNVEILING INDIAN PARENTS’ MIND-SETS: 

    Out of love, a parent can get anything for their children to accord them with happiness and enjoyment. But what if the kid dislike it or do not find contentment and satisfaction with what you got them and expects something that is apart from your priniciples? Will you dare to get them or do something that this society objectifies?

 Indian parents are innately primed to hold the position of being an authority towards their children when they age, especially if they are daughters and guess why. It is because the society that suffers from a bi-polar disorder has certified certain acts and behaviours to be admissible. Hence these parents fear the double standard society more than anything to even let their loving daughters whom they adore unconditionally to lose and compromise their dreams.

 

2.     THE DREAMY DAUGHTERS:

Dreams are limitless and it requires constant efforts to attain it. Few dreams tend to fail even if the efforts are rendered appropriately and why? Because, a woman might have failed to think sanely and what she had dreamt for might not be sensible to attain. It is absolutely difficult to smartly channelize out our thoughts and decide what we want in life, why do we want such a thing in our life and how to attain it, but if properly done it can do wonders.

There is this saying called “Be happy with whatever you have” and “Less is more” and a few, very few tend to forget it and falsely go for something that is needless and redundant. This category of people do not comprehend effortlessly and take a long time to realize that they are burning their daylight.

 

3.     JUDGEMENT SECRETIVE SOCIETY:

This society that we live in is often filled with different sets of people whom we do not even acknowledge that they do exist. It aids us to claim who you are and at the same time, the society also leads you to understand about where you stand in life therefore it is inevitable for anybody and we cannot pass on without society. Nowadays, society is sanely and insanely blamed for anything that happens. Society becomes critical and poses varying sets of names exclusively for a woman who desires to do something fearlessly which is why Indian parents and daughters encounters a catch-22 situation every time.

The water in the river is not stagnant and so does the society. It keeps changing the accusations over you at all parts of life which is why nobody stays at the same position in their lives – One day you will be the winner and the other day you will be the loser and conveys that you are solely responsible for whatever happened. Thus, society is processed by someone framing something for which some admits and goes accordingly, some stays delinquent over it and some keeps whining at it forever.

Compromises has stayed to be inescapable and preventable letting every human being to undergo the agony and discomfort irrespective of gender and still there are those who skip it and obtain what they really desire for. Life has always offered them with whatever were complimentary for their actions. 

LIFE IS SHORT AND SOMEONE GETS SOMETHING WHAT YOU GAVE AWAY. ACT WISELY. 

I would like to take this moment and platform to appreciate and salute those woman achievers’ who kept moving their ass in the highs and lows of their lives despite these eternally existing hurdles.